Human Nature

Posted November 7, 2007 by Pamela
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As I sit here my brain won’t turn off. Disembodied thoughts randomly swirling in my head distract me, keeping me from any needed sleep. At this stage in my life you would think that I would have this all figured out. I am not new to this life thing by any stretch of the imagination. Sure, I know what I want. I know what I am so very grateful for. I have read, listened to, contemplated and discussed the various ways to accomplish getting what you want. But, if the truth be said … people can tell you that “thoughts become things, so choose good ones.” “Ask and it shall be given.” “They can tell you that you can manifest the future which you desire and know that you deserve.” “There is enough out there for everyone and all you have to do is believe that you deserve it, picture that it as yours and it will be.” Well, I believe that. The influence of gratitude and positive thinking is a very powerful thing BUT if you are frozen in time, scared to take that leap off into the unknown then you can think good thoughts all day, you can meditate to manifest, you can pray very powerful prayers, you can make dream boards, visualize and be a grateful as all get out – IT JUST AIN”T GONNA HAPPEN if you don’t make the move to get it!!!!

So, then the question I must answer or that I find myself asking over and over again is this “In comparison to what I have right now, my life here in the present; will attempting to get what I want, what I know that I deserve, be so much better that it is worth leaving the situation that I have right now?” Yeah, if I was stuck in a crappy job, or a wretchedly unhappy relationship, sure it would be worth it! What I have right now isn’t perfect but it is okay. There are key factors (important yes, but not life shattering) that are missing. Overall, in the big picture what I have right now is ok. What then? Do I put myself in a financially vague situation, one that would require that I actually perform (work) to get to the perfect job? And who is to say that working will be so dammed perfect, sure I think that I would like to have my dream job. I think that I might be good at it. But I don’t have to work right now so…. the payoff is that I remain in a personal emotionally and financially lacking relationship. One that is “comfortable”, not a challenge in any way, a platonic life long relationship… is it worth leaving this relationship to see if I can find someone else who has the qualities that I want, and think that I deserve? If I do that, I would have to work at something. It is certain that I won’t be hired right into the perfect job that I have been thinking positive thoughts about and attempting to manifest. These career opportunities are made over time not overnight. Where would I go? I have children and grandchildren that I want to remain close to. On the other hand I know that the career and relationship that I think that I deserve and desire probably aren’t going to be found where I live right now. What do I do? Leave a man who loves me deeply, cares for me, gets along with me but leaves me longing for more? (Don’t think for one second that I haven’t attempted to talk to this person. To explain what it is that I need from this relationship! That was the very first step, I do love this man. But, is that enough? If you don’t have a physical side and financial security is a comfortable, easy relationship what I want? I’ve already invested three years on this – I am not taking this lightly)

I am no spring chicken, and this certainly is not my first rodeo. But, I am frozen; not so much in fear but in knowing that if I leave this situation, this relationship, there will never be an opportunity to turn back. This is one stubborn and cold man when he needs or wants to be. I have never personally experienced that side of him but I know for certain that it exists. There is also the age thing, as far as establishing a new career at this point in my life – it is probably not a very good bet. I am at the age when people are planning their retirement. Companies like Sears (in the past), Hersey (in the present) as well as many, many other corporations are offering employees of my age a retirement package or a golden parachute. Bye-bye old timer…

I know, NO I DON’T KNOW! I just contemplate, make lists, think about it some more, don’t sleep, sit and wonder… why, why, why? I know what I want to do in my life. There is so much to experience so much to see. (It isn’t helping that Faith Hill and Tim-boy are singing “Let’s Make Love” on my MP3 player right now!) Crap – dreams, fantasies! Others have them. What is it that keeps me in this state of suspended animation that is somewhat comfortable and pretty damned easy? Answers, I need to make up my mind what it is that I am going to do. I have always been one who gets gung-ho about an idea and I talk about it, dream about it but then that is it! Poof, it goes way. Easier to just stay where I am, doing whatever it is that I was doing. I am not a lazy lady; I will work my fingers to the bone to accomplish something while I am doing it. It will be done to the very best of my abilities, and I am normally proud of what I have accomplished. So I can’t say that I am here because I am too lazy to work. Shoot, I have worked since I was 14 years old. So what is it? What do I do? Where would I go?

Swirling, twirling, tumbling, jumbling, stumbling thoughts, ideas, desires, dreams. They are like a demon keeping me frozen in time, keeping me from much needed sleep, and basically driving me a little nutty.

No answers are asked for from any sources, this is just me putting it out there to the universe…


Spring Cleaning

Posted May 5, 2007 by Pamela
Categories: internet business, riches, the law of attraction, the seret, Uncategorized, Wealth, work from home

A little clean out of old energy can certainly allow new energy to come to fruition.

Enjoy! Spring CleaningS – Sweep – Sweep up and throw away your excuses as to why you can’t or won’t do something. Stop being the one who merely comments on what is wrong and start being the one who offers solutions.

P – Polish – Polish your heart with all its unwavering and steadfast passion and allow it to lead you to unlimited ways of creatively expressing who you are and what you love.

R – Rinse – Rinse away all of the self-doubt that has long coated your motivation and become willing to reacquaint yourself with a shiny, untarnished and larger sense of self.

I – Increase – Increase your circle of influence with those who see the glass half full – brimming with possibility and who champion you to do the same.

N – Neaten – Neaten your environment and create a sanctuary that is pleasing to the eye. You’ll feel the difference both physically and emotionally.

G – Groom – Groom your mind just as you would groom your physical self. Everyday look into the mirror of your being and adjust your thoughts, brush away the negativity and begin to consciously apply the law of attraction for your good.

C – Clear – Clear out the clutter. Take out what you haven’t used or worn in the last year and donate it to a charity. By clearing out the old, the new can finally come in.

L – Lighten – Lighten up and stop taking yourself and your situation so seriously. If joy is our birthright, then allow that quality of being to help lead you down the path of rediscovering sustaining happiness.

E – Empty – Empty out your bag of regrets and know that this now moment is the beginning of creating whatever life you desire. What you choose to focus on today colors and creates your tomorrows.

A – Arrange – Arrange your time so that you have equal parts work and play. Understand that one isn’t more important than the other. Both play vital and necessary roles in developing an optimum lifestyle.

N – Number – Number your goals and keep them in sight, referring to them often. When one is accomplished, replace it with another, always raising the stakes to see just how much good you can embody.

I – Inhabit – Inhabit your days with acts of unconditional love. Make it your intention to cherish and champion the good of others without expecting anything in return.

N – Nail – Nail up and complete any wobbly communication and unfinished business and if it simply isn’t possible to take immediate care of it, then create a plan to do so.

G – Gather – Gather up your friends and family and let them know how much you appreciate them. Praise their goals, their dreams, their lives.

© 2007 Rev David Ault


The Law of Forced Efficiency

Posted May 5, 2007 by Pamela
Categories: internet business, riches, the law of attraction, the seret, Uncategorized, Wealth, work from home

BY BRIAN TRACYThis law says that, “There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most important thing.”You Always Find the Time
When you run out of time and the consequences for non-completion of a key task or project can be really serious, you always seem to find the time to get it done, often at the very last minute. You start early, you stay late and you drive yourself to complete the job rather than to face the negative consequences that would follow if you didn’t get it completed within the time limit. Rule: “There will never be enough time to do everything you have to do.”

You Are Already Overwhelmed
The fact is that the average person today is working at 110% to 130% of capacity. And the jobs and responsibilities just keep piling up. Everyone has stacks of reading material they still have to go through. One study concluded recently that the average executive has 300-400 hours of reading and projects backlogged at home and at the office. What this means is that you will never be caught up. Get that out of your mind. All you can hope for is to be on top of your most important responsibilities. The others will just have to wait.

The Key Question You Should Ask
The key question you should ask is “What is the most valuable use of my time, right now?” This is the question that dominates time management. This is the key to overcoming procrastination and becoming a highly productive person. Every hour of every day, there is an answer to this question. Your job is to ask yourself the question, over and over again, and to always be working on the answer to it, whatever it is. Do first things first and second things not at all. As Goethe said, “The things that matter most must never be at the mercy of the things that matter least.” The more accurate your answers to this question, the easier it will be for you to set clear priorities, to overcome procrastination and to get started on that one activity that represents the most valuable use of your time.

Action Exercises
Take a few minutes each day and sit quietly where you cannot be disturbed. During this time, let your mind relax and just think about your work and activities, without stress or pressure.

In almost every case, during this time of solitude, you will receive wonderful insights and ideas that will save you enormous amounts of time when you apply them back on the job. Often you will experience breakthroughs that will change the direction of your life and work.

Please share your experiences …. Comment on the above

A great Inspirational Video

Posted April 4, 2007 by Pamela
Categories: internet business, riches, the law of attraction, the seret, Uncategorized, Wealth, work from home

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Daily Disciplines for Effortless Success:Six Steps for Activating “The Secret” in Your Life by Jack Canfield

Posted March 28, 2007 by Pamela
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The first step to using Law of Attraction as presented in the movie “The Secret” is to clarify exactly what you want. Remember—determine, write down and talk about what you do want, not what you don’t want. Be as specific as possible. Once you have clarified what you want, do the following each and every day.


1. Morning Intention, Visualization and Releasing


As soon as you wake up in the morning, take about 5 minutes to focus your mind on your desires, goals and intentions. Start by sitting in a comfortable position, closing your eyes and visualizing your desires and goals as already being fulfilled. Spend 30 seconds to a minute on each of your core desires and goals. You can also take a few moments to visualize your day going exactly as you would like it to.


When you do this, you will often find negative limiting beliefs that are the result of negative programming from your childhood will come up. You may hear thoughts like “I could never afford that,” “there’s no way I’ll ever get that,” or “who am I kidding?” coming up. If you do, use one of the many releasing techniques that are available (see the list below) to release the negative thought. Don’t fight or argue with the thought; just release it. Remember to also spend several moments feeling the feelings you would feel if you had already manifested your desire in your life. The intensity of the feeling is what fuels the intensity of the attraction.


Powerful releasing techniques:


The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin (

The Work by Byron Katie (

The Emotional Freedom Technique (


2. Use external images to keep you focused on your desires and goals.


To keep yourself focused on what you want to manifest surround yourself with visual images of the things and experiences you want to attract into your life. There are many techniques you can use for this.


1) Cut out pictures of the things you wish to own (like your ideal car or home) and pictures that represent the experiences you want to have (like the perfect relationship, your ideal job, perfect health, being at your ideal weight, more joy, inner peace or balance in your life)to remind yourself of how you want it to be. Tape them up where you will see them every day—on the mirror, the refrigerator, or your bulletin board. You can also scan them into your computer and make them into a screen saver or a continuously running PowerPoint program.


2) Combine your pictures and words that you cut out into a collage on a large piece of poster board.


3) Make a Dream Book by putting the pictures into a 3-ring binder pasted onto the pages or slid into plastic page protectors.

 When you look at any of these pictures, do what Bob Doyle, who is featured in “The Secret” teaches— think the thought, “THIS IS MINE NOW! THIS IS WHO I AM!”


3. Think a Better Feeling Thought


Start paying attention to the many times during the day that you have emotional responses (to other people, experiences, or your own thoughts) that are not in alignment with having or producing your desires. Pay special attention to when you feel disappointment, resentment, frustration or anger about your experiences and circumstances.


Remember, it’s your feelings (which are created by your thoughts, opinions, and beliefs) that are attracting your current circumstances. You must make a vibrational shift by changing your thoughts to ones that make you feel better (i.e., raise your vibration). Remember that you must become a vibrational match for the things and experiences that you want to attract into your life. It is especially important to focus your thoughts and behaviors on things that cause you to feel joy. Focus your thoughts on thoughts that bring you joy (your lover, your best friend, your grandchildren, your favorite vacation spot) and your actions on doing the things you love to do (pet your cat, work in your garden, listen to your favorite music).


4. Have an attitude of gratitude.


It is critical to take time each and every day to focus on what you are grateful for. Some people do this in the morning before or after they visualize their desires; others prefer to do it in the evening. Focus on all of the things in your life (most of which you take for granted) that you are grateful for—your health, your children, your job, the nice weather, electricity, running water, a nice stereo system, your flower garden, your pets, your friends). No matter what your situation, there are always things to be grateful for. The more you focus on what you are grateful for, the more things and experiences you will attract to be grateful for. You may wish to carry a “gratitude rock” like the one Lee Brower talks about in “The Secret.”


5. Take action.


There are two kinds of actions you can take. Obvious actions are things like, if you want a better car, going to test drive all of the models you are interested in and choosing the exact car you want to have, and saving 10% of your income in a “car account.” If you want to be a doctor, apply to medical school.


There are also what I call “inspired actions.” Once you begin to do the things described above, the universe will start responding by sending people, resources and opportunities you need to manifest your desired result. You are going to find that you have inspired ideas; you must act on them. You must follow those gentle proddings from the universe. Often these intuitive impulses will have no seeming connection to achieving your goal, but if you follow them, they will lead you down a path of wonderful fulfillment.


Here’s a quick way to know if the actions you’re taking are taking you closer to the fulfillment of your dreams and desires. If you are feeling joy while you are doing them, then you are on the right path. Remember, joy is your internal guidance system, just like the GPS system in a car, telling you are taking the right actions. Follow your joy.


6. Acknowledge that it is working.


If you start to see something change for the better, acknowledge that it is happening. Appreciate it. When you find the perfect parking space, acknowledge it. When you get the table you want in the restaurant, acknowledge it. When you receive unexpected income, acknowledge it. When you meet someone who can help you achieve your goal, acknowledge that Law of Attraction is working. The more you acknowledge that it’s working, the more it will work. It’s that simple.


If you are attracting things into your life that you don’t want, remember the Law of Attraction is still working. Instead of thinking or saying, “It’s not working,” ask your self, “What am I focusing on, thinking about, talking about, feeling or doing that is attracting this into my life?” If you want to know what you are thinking about, notice the results you are producing in your life. To change those results, you will first have to change your vibration by changing your thoughts and feelings.


While there are many techniques that are variations on these themes that you can apply, there’s nothing else you have to do.

What “The Secret” Can Bring Into Your Life – The Law of Attraction, The Personal Stories, The Teachers, The History, and How YOU Can Succeed.

Posted March 26, 2007 by Pamela
Categories: internet business, riches, the law of attraction, the seret, Wealth, work from home

What “The Secret” Can Bring Into Your Life – The Law of Attraction, The Personal Stories, The Teachers, The History, and How YOU Can Succeed.

Unless you’ve been living in a cave, you’ve heard of the hit DVD movie, The Secret.  The Secret has developed into quite a phenomenon. Many of the teachers who appeared in it have appeared on Oprah! and Larry King Live, and several other national television programs. Hundreds of thousands of people have watched the DVD, and those who have are hungry for information on how to implement what many people call the Law of Attraction.   This is one way to look at The Secret and the Law of Attraction. Read this, think about it, talk about what you can do to put these principles into action in your own life, and then act on it.As powerful as The Secret is, there are a few things—a few very important things—it either leaves out, or de-emphasizes.  This writing will discuss these things; because once you understand them you’ll have the maximum ability to use these important principles to take change of your life. Without them, The Secret won’t benefit you at all.There is a way, no matter who you are, and regardless of your past or present circumstances, to master your life, to master your mind, and to create anything you want in life. The Secret describes a part of how to do that. It’s a very important part, but it’s still just a part.  There’s more to The Secret and the Law of Attraction than just putting something out to the universe and hoping to get something back. As the people who made The Secret said, it’s true that for thousands of years a certain small segment of the population has known about and used this secret, and that those who’ve known it and have used it have prospered in extraordinary ways, and have influenced the world in ways that have seemed almost magical to those who don’t understand this secret. But you need to know more than generalizations about this secret in order to fully implement it, these two additional aspects of The Secret are crucial, and if you leave them out, The Secret doesn’t work. What you focus on creates your life—but it ain’t magic!Let’s start out, then, by acknowledging that it’s true that you create in reality, in one way or another, whatever you focus your attention on. Your life is going to be an outcome of where you predominantly place your attention. There are, of course, some things you need to know about the how-to of this in order to get all the benefits. What is unfortunate, in my opinion, is that all too often people think that all you have to do is focus your attention on what you want, and then, in some magic way, you’ll get it. I will say that the way this law works does seem like magic, especially when you first use it and see your results suddenly change from dismal to successful, but there is no magic involved, and without the second two principles you’ll end up being nothing but a wishful thinker, wondering how long this “Secret” stuff is going to take. The first principle you heard a lot about in The Secret DVD, the fact that what you place your attention on you tend to create or attract into your life. However, if you stop there, not much happens. After you place your attention on what you want to create or manifest, you have to use the second principle, which is to then take action to get it.  Forget about the Wish FairyI hate to break this to you, but if you want money—or anything else, for that matter—you can’t just wish for it. Whether you want great relationships, a fulfilling career, good health, or anything else, in addition to focusing your attention on what you want, you also have to take action. And the action you take also has to, in some way, be of value to the world, and to other people. You could act your ass off, but if your action has no value for anyone, you won’t get anything back. This is why they call it the Law of Attraction. You get back what you put out. To get value, you have to give value. That’s the way it works.For some of the people life isn’t working so well. Such people aren’t making much money, usually. They very often aren’t in a fulfilling career. Their relationships aren’t satisfying. They don’t feel happy and peaceful. Their health may not be very good. Many of them feel very lost in the world. They sometimes feel like, well, like losers in the game of life. Often such people don’t have the skills that allow them to offer a lot of value. That doesn’t mean that they couldn’t develop those skills, or in some other way figure out how to create value in the world, but at the present time they either don’t have the skills or don’t know how to use them to create benefit for others.You see, the problem is that such people would LOVE to find out that there’s a magic way to become prosperous, popular, respected, happy, and loved. Then, when someone comes along and tells them to just “put it out to the universe” it almost becomes a cruel joke, because to create the kind of life just described, you have to do more than just think about it or wish for it.Everyone who feels lost and discouraged about creating the life they want needs to know that while you can’t JUST focus your attention on what you want, it isn’t that difficult to add these other two principles, and, having added them, you can learn how to have everything you want in life. It isn’t magic, and it isn’t difficult, but there is a price to pay. Let’s look at the first principle, what most people think of now as The Secret—the idea that what you place your attention on is manifested in reality. This is a solid, real, principle, but it isn’t magic. Here’s why this principle works—if, of course, you use the other two principles with it. When you focus your attention on something you want to create or attract, several things happen. Your mind is a very powerful goal seeking mechanism. You just have to give it a goal, and it gets busy figuring out how to get it. When you focus on something, your mind takes it as an instruction to figure out how to create or attract whatever you’ve focused on. In fact, right now, you’re already using that power. The problem isn’t a lack of ability to manifest what you focus on, but rather a lack of conscious and intentional control over what you focus on. In other words, most people focus their mind unconsciously and unintentionally. Their focus runs on autopilot. Your mind was pre-set to focus in a certain way during childhood, and now it just runs on automatic. Depending on what happened while you were growing up, your mind focuses a certain amount of the time on what you want, and a certain amount of the time on what you want to avoid. Either way, though, it attracts or creates it.Remember that this first principle works in conjunction with the other two—taking action, and making sure the action is of value to someone. So when you focus on something you want to create or attract, a number of things happen. First, you get ideas about what actions you could take. If you want to attract a cold drink, you think about having it, and your mind immediately suggests that you to go to the kitchen, if you have something  cold to drink there, or take a trip to the supermarket to buy something cold to drink, if you don’t. Instantly, you get ideas about what action to take in order to make your idea a reality.You can probably see that sitting there visualizing a cold drink without doing something about it is a belief in magic, and if that’s all you do you’re not going to get a cold drink. Even if someone walks into the room just as you think of having a cold drink, and you ask them to get you something to drink, you’ve still taken action. And, if by some coincidence you thought of a cold drink and right then someone walked into the room and said, “I was wondering if you’d like something cold to drink?” this is not happening because you thought about a cold drink. A lot of magic-believers would like to think so, but you could sit there every day and think about a cold drink, and it would be a long time before that method would work again. Scientists have a name for this. It’s called a coincidence. People who believe in magic turn coincidences into evidence, but that doesn’t make it so, and you can easily prove this to yourself by thinking of having a cold drink the next day, and the day after that, and the day after that, and finding out what happens. What will happen is that no cold drink will manifest the next day, or the next, or the next, unless you get up out of your chair and take action to find some.So the first thing that happens when you focus on getting something is that your mind generates ideas about how to get it, ideas about what actions you could take to get it. The second thing that happens is that you begin to notice resources you could use in getting what you want. You might notice people who could help you that you weren’t noticing before. You might suddenly become aware of information, books, seminars, TV shows, or whatever, that previously you had not noticed. Perhaps you’ve had the experience of wanting to learn about something and going to a bookstore. Suddenly you see all kinds’ books about the subject that you never noticed before, and would have just walked right by if you hadn’t told your mind to notice them.Let’s say you’re driving down the street and you decide you want an Italian meal. If there are any Italian restaurants on that street, will you notice them? Of course. Would you have noticed them if you hadn’t focused your attention on Italian food? Probably not.When you focus your attention on something, your mind develops a kind of radar that causes resources to wave little red flags at you, and to almost jump into your arms, or at least into your awareness. But again, you can see how this relates to taking action, because these resources you notice are useful only if you use them. By focusing on what you want, you’ve begun to develop some ideas about how to get it, and you’ve started noticing resources you could use. Next, focusing on what you want causes you to become motivated to act. Because you’re thinking about what you want and about how you’ll feel when you get it—good, probably—you become motivated to do something, to take action. And, finally, focusing on what you want causes you to tap into or develop certain internal qualities that help you to get it, such things as courage, or persistence, or focus. Because you’re focused on what you want, and are thinking about the benefits of having what you want and imagining how good it will feel, you’re more likely to be persistent, to focus your attention, to be disciplined, to be self reliant, to take personal initiative, to use your imagination, and to be enthusiastic.Those who focus on what they want develop all of these personal qualities, and, depending on what qualities are needed in order to create what you want, possibly others. And, the more and the longer you focus on what you want, and the more positive emotion you add, the more these qualities become part of your personality. So focusing your mind in the way described in The Secret causes you to have ideas, to notice people and resources that could help you, to become motivated to act, and to develop internal qualities that will help you act to get what you want. You can see, then, how incredibly valuable focusing your attention on what you want can be. If you’ve ever wondered why some people seem to have so many ideas, how they seem to always find the resources they need or the people who can help them, how they stay motivated, and how they seem to have all these amazing personal qualities, now you know. They did it by continually focusing their attention on what they want and then taking valuable action.Now here’s a really easy way to focus your attention on what you want.  Call it the Magic Question, but again, it really isn’t magic. To focus your attention on something you want to create or attract, ask yourself, “How can I create X?” whatever X is, or “How can I get X?” Sometimes, if you’re in what seems to be a particularly bad situation, you might say, “Given that I’m in this situation, what can I do to get X?” For instance, if you just lost your job and you have a lot of debts, you might ask yourself, “Okay, given that I’m in this situation, what can I do right now to create a new job and create enough money to pay all these debts?” When you ask this type of How Can I? question, it focuses your attention on what you want and in doing so you enlist your mind in finding an answer—in other words, to figure out what you could actually DO to begin creating or attracting what you want. Then, as you get ideas, you have to act on them. Sitting there wishing and hoping for a miracle or hoping that a coincidence will slam into you is what NOT to do. Dr. Phil, if he were here, would be asking such a person, “How’s that workin’ for ya?” I know a lot of very successful people, and none of them sit around waiting for a miracle to land on them. There are some professionals out there who teach that focusing on what you want is magic, when you watch what they’re actually doing, they are taking action. How they can miss the fact that they are is beyond me, but a few of them do teach people to just “put it out to the universe” and that no action is necessary. They too, though, take action, but I guess they somehow fail to see the connection between the action they take and the results they get. If you look around at successful, make-it-happen people, you won’t see any of them who don’t take action. It only looks like they’re not taking action.  Now sometimes the results can look as if they are coming to a very successful person awfully darned easy and awfully darned quickly, but these results are still coming from action, preceded by focusing on what that person wanted.Let’s look at the third principle, the idea that the action you take has to benefit someone; that your action has to create value. Think of it this way. From time to time you give money to other people, right? You pay your electric bill, you pay your car payment, you give money to the supermarket, you give money to the clothing store, or the gas station. Why do you do this? Is it just because you like these people? Is it because they put it out to the universe that you would stop by and give them money? Well, you might like them, perhaps they did sit down and focus on how to get you and other customers to give them some of your money, but when it comes right down to it, you gave them money because they have something you want more than you want the money.  Like everyone else, unless it’s just because you love them, you give money to others if you get something valuable in return. What’s more, you’re the sole judge of whether what they have is valuable. It doesn’t matter who else thinks it’s valuable—if you don’t think it is, you don’t give up your money for it.Other than money you might give to someone just because you love them, this is the only reason why money changes hands. This means that if you want money, someone else is going to have to give it to you, and they’re going to use the same criteria you use. If giving you money gets them something they want more than the money, they’ll give you the money. In order to get more money, then, you have to figure out a way to create more benefit, more value. This is really the essence of the Law of Attraction. The amount of money you attract is equal to the value you provide. This applies to more than money, of course. As the Beatles said in one of their songs, “the love you take is equal to the love you make.” I’m only talking in terms of money because that’s what most people think of when they think of The Secret and the Law of Attraction. But whatever you want—love, respect, friends, or anything else—you’ll receive it to the extent that you put out, through your actions, something of equivalent value. Be a good friend, and you’ll have friends. Act in a way that invites respect, and you’ll be respected. And so on.The main point, though, is that for you to get something in this world, you have to give. As Emerson said, the universe’s books are always balanced—which, by the way, also means that you can’t fail to receive when you give, and if you have to wait, you build up interest, you might say, while you wait.Now, some people struggle, at least partially, because they haven’t found a way to offer very much value, so they don’t make much money. If you’re flipping burgers, it’s probably because you don’t have the skills that make you more valuable to someone else, which means others aren’t willing to trade very much money for whatever you provide. The burger-flipper needs to be reliable enough to show up, smart enough to follow directions, and be able to get along with the other employees, but not much else is required. It’s also possible that you have something that would be of value to others, but you haven’t found a way to let others know about it. In that case, you have a sales and marketing problem, and you need to find a way to convincingly let others know about the value you could provide for them.But there’s a solution to this, and it isn’t wishing and hoping. If you don’t have a way to create very much value for others, you can always get more knowledge or more skills.  So if you aren’t making as much money as you want, you need to figure out a way to create more value, and you need to figure out a way to make sure people know you have this value. The value could be your ideas, it could be your labor, it could be a product you create or sell, or it could be a service you provide. If it has value, and if you can find a way to make sure people know about it, you’ll make money equivalent to the value you provide. And, of course, none of this will happen unless you take action, and you won’t take action—or know what action to take—unless you begin by focusing your mind on what you want and asking yourself how you can get it.But please don’t think that you can just wish for something or “put it out to the universe,” and then, without taking action or providing any value, expect to get it. In fact, let me clue you into another aspect of the Law of Attraction. If a random event brings you something, for which you haven’t provided value—something you haven’t paid the price to have—I hate to tell you this, but you still have to pay in some way. If you win the lottery, you’ve received a bunch of money without having provided value in exchange. You know what happens to nearly all people who win millions in the lottery, don’t you? That’s right. They almost always lose all the money within a few years. Unless that person does something with the money that provides value to others, they’ll find a way to lose it.And, by the way, this is the way debt works, too. If you go into debt in order to have something before you’ve earned the money, you end up paying more for it. There is a price for everything, and when you pay in advance the price is lower, and when you pay in arrears the price is higher. One of the big secrets to success is to find out what the price is for what you want and pay it, in full, as fast as possible. The price might be money, but it also could be time, experience, learning, work, or something else. Sometimes the price is a series of events that look like failures, but are really preparation for success. But whatever the price is, the faster you pay it, the better. This is what the second two principles are about.So The Secret is a wonderful thing. It works—especially if you add the second and third principles. But it’s like electricity. You can light up a city with it, or electrocute yourself. You can only use The Secret to get what you want to the extent that you can consciously and intentionally direct your attention. As long what you focus on is chosen without conscious intention, you’re going to find yourself attracting and creating, at least some of the time, some things you don’t want. And some people are unfortunately attracting a lot of what they don’t want, a lot of the time.The Wish Fairy is a fraud and The Secret really isn’t a secret. It’s been around for thousands of years, and many people have taught it in many different forms. The only reason it can be referred to as a “secret” is that very few people actually use it. It’s been estimated that about 2% of people actually embrace the three principles described and commit themselves to using them consistently. Or, if they try to use the first principle, they skip the second two and insist on wishing and hoping and believing in magic, eternally waiting for the Wish Fairy to give them what they want.Here’s to hoping that you’ll be one of those who embrace all these principles and actually use them to become happy, peaceful, and successful, and to create whatever you want in life.

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